How to hide being gay from wife

Sometimes a woman may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay? If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well. The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay?

Last Updated: December 19, Fact Checked. This article was reviewed by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more.

My client sat in the chair looking down at the floor, glancing up briefly to make eye contact, then darting his eyes back to the carpet. He spoke quietly, as if almost afraid to be heard. He clutched his hands throughout the session, displaying all the markers of an anxious man in the throes of shame. He was a new client to my practice: a married, middle-aged, suburban dad with a high-powered career.

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